As I get older, I increasingly value more-so, my own privacy and expectation of respect from anyone who shows up in my world as a complete stranger, trying to sell me something or to influence me. Generally, it’s the first contact that seems to be the problem. If I go two months without checking my mail (post office mail or e-mail), I want to see only mail from personal friends or from established business relationships (just those few in any month). I never want my phone to ring unless it’s from a personal friend or from an established business relationship. Instead, my phone rings several times each day from solicitors. I get dozens of e-mails per day and I only look at ones that I am expecting. I only open one or two of those hundreds of e-mails per month. I got rid of most postal junk mail by having a secret postal address that is not on any public records and never checking my residential address mail which is on the public record since I am a home owner there. Anyone who I care about (friends, creditors, business associates) use my secret postal address (at a UPS store). That took some effort to get everyone on-board with and worked pretty good until just recently. My voter registration goes to that secret postal mailing address and I am now getting hundreds (literally hundreds) of junk mails from political candidates now. This egregious forcing of attempts to influence me is against my will is becoming more unacceptable as I get older (and I have more assets and am thus a bigger target). If I want to participate in society at all, I have to sort through other people’s crap everywhere I go and with everything I do, just to have that privilege. Does anyone out there feel the same way?
I finally decided that enough is enough. I want to start some kind of privacy service to thwart all of these privacy and respect violators and to set some boundaries that they must respect. The idea is to create closed systems that identify and validate the identities of people by their real first and last names and that have the ability to ostracise them personally for violating the contact preferences of others. I need a way to filter out every phone call that is not from a validated number that can be removed from the system if he or she violates too many people’s contact rules. I need a way to have my postal mail sorted for me so that only verified non-junk senders can get anything delivered to my postal address. The same goes for every e-mail. If everyone in the system has to be validated for their real identity upon every form of contact, then you could make your own contact rules that others would be forced to obey, least they be removed from the closed system and thus, they can’t reach even their own friends (unless the friend makes an exception for them - a potentially embarrassing sutuation). So I check a “no unsolicited mail” in an online form and suddenly, all unwanted postal mail stops showing up in my postal mail box. I check “no telephone solicitations” and suddenly those calls stop too. Those few few that do get through to me end up being ostracused by the whole system and everyone in it. By default, everyone would be blocked from everything to begin with. Then after you join the system and are verified, your privileges in the closed system grow. Eventually, you get your friends and everyone you do business with, in to that closed system. Eventually, most of society is in that system. At that point, reputation is important and many electronic enforcement systems can be put in place. In addition, it could be like e-bay. If you have a bad reputation, no one wants to do business with you. If you treat people well, you are trusted. The first thing I ask a solicitor who calls me blindly is “what is your personal home phone number, the one that your wife or children will answer if I call it?”. They never give it to me. But they all get the point. In such a closed system, every junk phone caller would be giving up that personal information, just by calling you or mailing you something. Corporations could be held accountable too, least they be cut off from communicating with their valued cuatomers. Everyone would find the need to respect the stated boundaries of others. Does this appeal to anyone else other than just me?